Holiday Season Tips
The following information is from a website called Dads and Daughters. This is an organization whose mission is to make the world safe and fair for daughters and who believes in the power of a healthy father daughter relationship. Their tips for a memorable holiday season are very good and can be beneficial to everyone, not just dads and daughters but the whole family. I wish you success in implementing a few of these ideas in your family this holiday season.
1. Presence always trumps presents. More than any transient toy or other physical object, your kids crave your time and attention, so let them bask in your presence. If you’re a live-away dad, be with her through personal communication and traditions (see below), rather than trying to “make up” for your situation with a flood of presents.
2. Give her a "Time Machine." Instead of the latest electronic gadget, give your daughter time (and be sure to keep the commitments you make). Here are a few examples:
a. A simple trip together
b. A commitment to spend one hour of one-on-one with her, once a week, all year
c. Make homemade decorations together
d. Build a project together
f. Learn some new things which make you a better Dad for her like learning to coach or practice “her” sport with her or reading a magazine like Daughters® (www.daughters.com).
g. Pick one day between now and the holidays to just watch her non-judgmentally all day. Just be aware of how unique and special she is. At the end of the day write down everything you love about her and then go share the list with as a
3. Redefine interactive. Nowadays, interactive seems to mean a toy or machine that “interacts” with us people. Remember that what really builds families is interaction between people and other people! Make room for a feast of personal interactivity this season–like a neighborhood Football Romp to exercise away those extra calories and catch up with the neighbors!
4. Consider “One In, One Out.”To relish the giving nature of the Holidays, some families use a simple and powerful tradition: For every present a family member receives, she or he donates one of their previous possessions to charity. It’s a concrete way to live the Golden Rule—and cuts down on clutter, too!
5. Make your own presents. Regardless of age, almost any daughter can work with her stepdad or dad to make gifts—from homemade crafts to certificates for services to be rendered (e.g.: “Mom, this certificate entitles you to one month of me vacuuming the house”).
6. Wrap recycled. Use “pre-owned” wrapping paper, newspapers, old maps, and other paper products to wrap your presents. It’s a perfect way to personalize a present, while cutting down on waste (and saving money). See other ideas at www.epa.gov/epaoswer/osw/specials/funfacts/winter.htm.
7. Remember that simple is "in." The Center for the New American Dream polled families last year and found that a majority are getting a bit sick of all the
8. Give to others. Help your daughter decide on a set amount of money she will give to charitable causes this year. If she’s too young to earn her own money, give her some to donate. Some kids even give donations as a gift to a loved one—“Big Sister, in your honor, I bought a Heifer® International (www.heifer.org ) goat for Women in Livestock Development in
- “Adopt” a family through a local nonprofit. We shoot for one practical (shirt, socks etc.), one toiletry (bath soaps, shaving kit, etc) and one pure fun (game, book, stuffed animal) per person. We have a lot of fun shopping for these people that we do not know, but care about.
- Volunteer at a local charity. I devise a "menu" of places in our city that need help over the holidays, and my daughter picks. We’ve done Meals on Wheels, singing carols to seniors, helping at the animal shelter. Be sure to ask the kids for their ideas too. Often, theirs are the best!
9. Remember ritual. Repetition of meaningful rituals is an important part of building
10. Nurture the Holiday spirit all year. The Holidays remind us what special people we have for children, family members, and friends. Try to remember and cherish that special feeling everyday. We only get one crack at being her dad while she’s a girl. So let’s make the most of it!